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"What are you going to evolve yourself to become today?" is a very different way of approaching change than "Where is it wrong?" or "How are you inadequate?"

Instead of looking for what's wrong and fixing it, it's possible simply to think of ways that your life could be enriched: "What would be fun to do, or interesting to be able to do?" "What new capacities or abilities could I invent for myself?" "How can I make things really groovy?"

Now that's a little bit to heavy. That's why we wouldn't tell that to you. We noticed that Juan told Carlos. We offer you an alternative. If at any point you discover yourself hesitating, or being incongruent, or putting of until tomorrow something you could try now, or just needing some new choices, or being bored,…

When I was first doing therapy a man came in and said "I want to have better relationships with people." I said "Oh, so you have trouble relating to people?" He said "No, I get along fine with people. I enjoy my relationships a lot. I'd like to be able to do it even better."

If you decide that you want to fail with this material, it's possible to. There are two ways to fail. I think you ought to be aware of what those are, so that you can make a choice about how you are going to fail if you decide to. One way is to be extremely rigid. You can go through exactly the steps that you saw and…

Your personal history serves as a foundation for all your capabilities and all your limitations. Since you have only one personal history, you have only one set of possibilities and one set of limitations. And we really believe that each of you deserves more then one personal history to draw upon. The more personal…

Since your personal history is a myth anyway, use it as a resource instead of a set of limitations.

And if you have one choice, you are a robot. We think therapy is the business of turning robots into people. That is not an easy task. We all get robotized.

When you join someone else's reality by pacing them, that gives you rapport and trust, and puts you in position to utilize their reality in ways that change it.

If you don't have three choices about how to respond to things that occur in theraupetic situation, then I don't think that you are operating out of a position of choice. If you have only one way, then you are a robot. If you have two, you'll be in dilemma.